FAT CHANCE
How would you support a friend who you suspect has an eating disorder? What do you think about Nancy? What do you think about Nancy and Judi's friendship? What do you think about the diary format of the book?
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If i had a friend who had a eating disorder, id be really afraid for their life. I would most definatly NOT support them in any way. id report them to C.A.R.E.S! And let someone know about their disorder. Nancy, that was the popular girl rite? If im wrong let me know, but Nancy WAS NOT a good friend, she was a bad BAD influence. And i think she was pretty much using Judi in the beginning, and in the end. I think that the other girl, i forget her name, that was actully friends w/ Judi, was a good influence cuz when she found out about Judi's problem, she told her not to do it again. I LOVE how the book is in dairy format! Its like that book "Go Ask Alice" (which by the way is an amazing book!) I like books in the form of diary's a lot!!!! Personally i think that this was the best book on the RO list this year. If u havnt read it yet. READ IT!!! Its good!!! Srry this is so long, but i rly liked this book!
I really liked the diary format of this book and if I had to support my friend for the eating disorder, I would tell her parents because I would be very concerned about her. About Nanci's and Judi's friendship, I don't think it was real because Nanci was using Judi I think because Judi caught her.
If one of my friends had an eating disorder I would tell the Guidance Counselor about it and get them the help they need. Even if they HATED me after for telling someone, I would feel better that I could have just saved their life.
CARES. immediately. i dont care if they wouldnt want me to tell anyone. i wouldnt want them to get sick. anyways i'd only be doing what a friend should do.
Recently a friend & I experienced a problem of this sort. Not a eating disorder but sumthing else. Our friend was having lots of problems and it hurt to hear them. We did all we could to help, but we needed to do sumthing more. When we found out about what our friend did, it scared us, really badly. And we knew what we were going to do but it was really scary. In a day or two after we talked about it we signed them up for C.A.R.E.S. and after we were STILL scared. Turns out this helped A LOT! when i/we found out that everything was ok we were SO HAPPY. its actully really hard to describe the feeling. All a mix of relief/joy/sadness/excitment/ & proudness. Yea i say if ur friends are having problems, dont just stand there uselessly. Do something before somthing even worse happens.
Dear Anonymous, I can't thank you enough for your post. I am so proud of the way that you handled yourselves with you and your friend helping someone out. It takes a lot of guts to step up and let an adult know what's going on. A LOT. Sometimes problems are just too big for us to handle alone, and I mean at ANY age. I have had many friends with whom I have tried to help to the best of my ability, but just standing by someone's side doesn't always help. It takes an outside force, an outside team to step in and help. CARES is a fabulous first step. Whether it's an eating disorder, drugs, alcohol, depression, or cutting, or suicidal thoughts, these things are way more than we can handle alone. It's really, really scary for both sides. It's scary to be the one going through all of this, but it is especially scary to be friends with someone like this and not know what to do. Just like in FAT CHANCE. It's takes a true friend and someone with a big heart to ask an adult for help. More often than we know, everybody wants to help, but we don't always know how to ask for it. CARES is exactly how. CARES provides the right resources and a safe a place for your friend. Even if you suspect that a friend needs help, it's always safer to ask than not to at all. You are so right when you say to do something to help them before it's too late. YOu should really be proud of yourself for being such a great friend and having such a caring, loving spirit. Anybody would be truly blessed to be a friend of yours. Thanks for sharing your story. I really appreciate your honesty. We can all learn a lesson here. Hugs - Ms. C
miss curran,
thanks so much for helping the first anonymus and i out with our problem. after talking to you, we realized that as serious as we thought it was, it was actually far worse. and that made us proud (anonymous #1 was right because it is a hard feeling to explain). and we were also proud and glad to have such a caring librarian/friend like you to help us with our problem. thanks so much! we'll miss you next year!
Dear Anonymous, thank you for your sweet words. No matter where you go in life, I am always reachable to listen or to help. Thank you, also, for being so strong and brave to step up and help your friends. I really think it's a rare thing to have a friend who cares so deeply enough to step up to the plate, to say what they are thinking and to say "You need help; I will help you find it." Most people walk away - I guess it's easier for them. I've experienced that in my own life. It's really hard to do what you did and you should feel so good and so proud. Life isn't easy sometimes, and no matter what age we are...14 (you guys), 29 (me) or 60 or 101...we all need support and there's nothing that we can't handle if we handle it together. The hardest part is reaching out...once you do that, everything else falls into place. I wish more people were like you :-) Always stay that way. Thanks for sharing this with me. Miss C.
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